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Domestic Violence Victim to Survivor

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EUGENE, Ore. — The latest survey released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reveals that one in three women will be a victim of domestic violence. Breaking free from abuse takes courage, it’s a transformation from victim to survivor.

In 2007, Lacey Sharp was caught up in an abusive relationship. It didn’t start that way, but the signs were there.

“I think that he just needed the upper hand at all times,” said Sharp.

To cope, she turned to drugs and alcohol. But the abuse wasn’t just affecting her life, her son was a witness.

“I think it added to whole bunch of bad behavior,” Sharp said. “Kids are right there in the middle, and they know exactly what’s happening.”

She finally reached her breaking point and with the help of a Womenspace advocate, she came up with a plan.

First, she went to a safe house and went through detoxification. That’s when she realized this was a bigger problem.

“When the abuse got taken away, I still had a drug and alcohol problem and I just decided to turn that around,” Sharp said.

Three months of treatment allowed Sharp to find herself again, to discover her self-worth and beauty.

“I will never ever let anyone treat me like that again,” Sharp said.

Part of Sharp’s recovery is empowering others. She took the volunteer training course so that she could answer the hotline at Womenspace.

“God put me here. This is what I’m supposed to be doing, sharing my experience,” Sharp said.

Click here for more information on the domestic violence awareness event One Billion Rising.

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  1. anonymous says:

    I am happy for this woman that she has finally gotten it together. I hope her children are well and that they will all have a better life. I can understand slipping into an abusive relationship, what I do not understand is the part about “coping” by turning to drugs and alcohol. What is that all about? Especially when you have kids in the house. While I am hopeful for a better life for this woman I do not have any sympathy for the drugs & alcohol part.

    1. Somewhat InformedCitizen says:

      I think many people don’t fully understand the part of coping, Anonymous, since most are not well informed about substance abusive and it’s causes. Coping is actually one of the major reasons for alcohol and substance abuse. Whether they are currently in an abusive relationship, sexually/physically/emotionally abused as a child, the person takes the substance to “help” muffle the thoughts and pain. And I’m speaking emotional pain.

      Here is a helpful link to a fact sheet about the correlation of domestic violence and substance abuse:
      http://www.ncadv.org/files/SubstanceAbuse.pdf (copy & paste to your browser if no hyperlink)

      If you want more information, I suggest contacting your local non-profit for community ed classes on domestic violence and/or substance abuse. If you feel compelled to help, I’m certain either organization are in need of funding.

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