“This study showed when parents frequently yell at or humiliate their kids it’s harmful to them,” said clinical psychologist Mark Crawford.
Researchers found that when parents disciplined their teenagers by yelling, swearing at, or humiliating them, two or more times a week, the teens were more likely to act up in school, lie to parents, steal, fight or show signs of depression. The study looked at almost 1,000 two-parent families.
“When their primary caretakers are yelling or humiliating them, it really causes them to question their own self worth and their own identity,” Crawford said.
Parents usually yell because they take their child’s behavior personally or they feel out of control. Let’s face it. Parenting a teen is not always easy.
You’re going to be upset. That’s just part of the job description. So what I think it’s important for parents to know is.”
“You have to self soothe, you have to step away, get control of your own emotions. Then decide what am I trying to do? Do I need to discipline, to teach, or do I need to just have a conversation with them,” Crawford said.